I don't know about asking her what she learned from it, I always took that to be a way of rubbing a decision I made in my face. Like a "see, I told you so" sort of thing. I learned from my mistakes even though I never said a word of it to anyone else. Also, never assume that just because you have a teenager means that you have a rebel. I hated being treated like that. It really became a self-fufilling prophacy, because I was treated like a rebel before I was even doing anything wrong. I hadn't even done ANYTHING as far as I know, and a week after I turned 13 I got a "cut out this teen rebel b.s." lecture. So when I finally started really messing up, it made no difference. I never felt like I was trusted with all the restrictions I had, anyway. and now I'm having trouble passing my classes in college. But don't worry, most kids turn out better than I did (or will, I don't think I'm done turning out yet, but the outlook's not so good) Sounds like you have a good kid on your hands, though. Don't ever ever take her for granted, and do everything you can to keep her from being like me! Good luck with the parenting thing, I hear it's hard work! (and for what it's worth, even though I've been a crappy teenager to raise, my mom still says it's easier to take care of a moody teen than a needy infant/toddler)