When you tell someone about your mental illness, do you explain what it actually entails? It's one thing to tell someone you're bipolar, it's another to tell them what kinds of behavior they can expect and to let them decide whether or not that's acceptable to them.

It feels wrong *to me* to let someone fall in love with you and then tell them about your MI afterwards. Especially if it's something that is likely going to have a big impact on the relationship.

I understand that you might not want them prematurely judging you based on your MI, but is not telling them in the beginning and waiting until their already attached a good idea? If people were told in the beginning, then perhaps they could make a decision based on logic and what their thoughts are concerning MI. They can then decide whether it's something they can deal with. By delaying it, emotions are going to play a big part in the decision-making.

I don't know, but I wonder if this is the best approach for both of your sakes.