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Originally Posted by Anna72914
But if someone truly loves you it shouldn't matter that you have a mental illness. Even people without mental illnesses do things their partner can't handle and they leave them because of it. So if they can't deal with you, they can't deal with you...it shouldn't matter if you have a label for it or not. And so far he has been fine with her, so if he left just because she told him that, that would be very closed minded and judgmental on his part.
I think that it's the person's business who they choose to disclose to and when. We shouldn't have to walk around with it written on our foreheads.
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I have a different opinion. Love isn't enough, and love is just one part of a relationship. Many enter into relationships in love, yet it at some point, for whatever reason, doesn't work out.
I've heard about how some behave during an episode, and it doesn't sound easy for the person suffering, or for their partner. It's not something small, it's huge. I think you know that if you were to tell them in the beginning of the relationship, they may decide not to pursue a relationship with you... but isn't that the type of person you're trying to avoid in the first place?
I don't think it's fair to label someone who doesn't want to have a relationship with someone who has a MI as judgemental or close-minded. What is there to be closed-minded about? The effects of MI are real, for both the sufferer and their partner. It's not something trivial, it's going to have a huge impact on your relationship, daily life, etc.