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Old Oct 15, 2007, 04:26 PM
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Here is some of the languarge I've been learning...

Filter Awareness…an extremely stable and enduring pattern of thinking that develops during childhood and is elaborated throughout life… They are

Resistant to change, initiate extreme, intense emotion, thoughts, and often destructive behaviors.

Are ideas, not necessarily truth, but important beliefs about oneself and the world

Are accepted without question, absolute, not conditional, self-perpetuating and ultimately lead to other beliefs based on the filter

Are activated or trigger by events and, once activated, control our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. Allow us to survive, but not heal or recover

Operate in subtle ways, difficult to identify as they are usually outside of our awareness

Persist until therapy is focuses on modifying them.

1. Emotional Deprivation…needs (affection, protection, caring, etc) won’t be met by others. Difficulty trusting others, appear independent
2. Abandonment…people close will eventually leave you…avoid close or sabotage relationships
3. Mistrust…others cannot be trusted. Expect others to hurt, cheat, manipulate, lie, etc.
4. Defectiveness/Social Undesirability…belief that you are flawed, bad, socially inept or inferior. Hyper sensitive to criticism, rejection, and blame…insecure around others.
5. Failure to achieve…incapable of performin as well as pears in all areas. May not try because they believe they will fail
6. Vulnerability to harm and illness…always on the verge of a major random catastrophe (financial, natural, medical, etc. May avoid things to avoid pain or hurt they believe will occur.
7. Self-sacrifice…belief where you sacrifice your own needs in order to help others. Feel guilty if they put theirs in front. Helping others gives sense of identity. May resent those they are taking care of
8. Subjugation…must submit to others in order to avoid negative consequences…current control over your behavior, emotional expression, and decisions because you feel coerced by others. Exessively accommodating,
9. Unrelenting standards…nothing good enough…strive to meet excessively high standards to avoid criticism
10. Entitlement…Able to do, say, or have whatever you want…demanding
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