No worries. Mind you I was young at the time... I drove 700 miles every Friday night after work to see my wife in prison for three hours on Saturday and Sunday afternoons and two and a half hours each evening. After Sunday nights visit, I would drive home 700 miles to go to work on Monday. He best friend on the inside had gotten out, gotten into a relationship and had a baby. Her friend couldn't visit because she was an ex-inmate but her boyfriend could and he could bring the baby who my wife was dying to see.

Because inmates were limited in the number of visits they could have every month, I would have to give up one of my beloved visits. I didn't want to.

If you are capable of love and your partner is capable of love, then you have all the compatibility you need. Love finds no sacrifice in doing for - you want to. Doing something for the person you love is a joy. So my wife's into horses and I am not - not even a little bit. But when she goes to the rodeo to barrel race who do you think is the biggest rodeo fan there? I want to go. That's a mundane example maybe, certainly there are bigger things, but marriage is a series of mundane moments with a smattering of starbursts. Changing diapers, doing dishes or laundry, etc. When you hear the baby cry, are you going to jump up before the baby wakes her or are you going to pretend you're asleep. As tired as you are, are you going to be happy to do so or are you going to resent the fact that you got up last time too.

How do you not love someone who you discover the next morning when you awaken, that they got up all four times and let you sleep? Not because they changed a diaper - but because they would rather give up their entire nights sleep then let it interfere with yours?

If their behavior is on self more often than it is on the one they are in a romantic relationship with - who do they love more?