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Originally Posted by Lostinwonderland541
Okay trying to get this off my mind and find some good advice.
My ex and i broke up about 2 years ago, one year later i met my current boyfriend. Two months into meeting him he proposed and i said yes. It was still new and excited.. Now and for the last 6 months things have settled in and i dont know any more.. I also need to add that he is my first boyfriend ever.. I have always been with women. I dont know if i really want to be with a guy .. This amoung other factors have led me to question this relationship.. More recently my ex wife has been asking me to come back.. I miss her so much and still love her so so much. We broke up because she cheated.. (Part of a manic bipolar episode).. Now i do think i want her back and feel like we are unresolved.
I dont want to hurt my fiance. But i dont know what to do or if this is just a depression or impulsive stage.. But it has been bothering me for months..
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In this situation I'm going to give you the answer that I think is going to be one you don't like but nevertheless I think would be best.
first off I don't think that you should continue with the fiancé you have now. You obviously are not all in anymore and are thinking about someone else, regardless of past relationship or not you are divided in your mind and heart. IT is not fair to be with anyone if you're not completely in it anymore. Dont' dawdle on this, but do what's best for the both of you and the most fair to him and let him go.
Mind you I do not mean that you should go back to your ex either. I don't think you're in a place to do so yet. I think if you are not completely sure, which seems to be what you imply here, then it's best for you to break off what you have now and work on you, take some time to consider, find out for sure if your ex is done with the cheating and can be trusted and if you can forgive and move on, etc.
Wait until you're ready to make a completely committed decision on anything whether it is to continue to seek out a new mate, or to be with your ex.