Can I answer the grocer question, we communicate all wants with the system...My frugal lady is good with all wants for the kids as well...We allow the begging to be heard only and use a list...It is quite fun!

If your conscious with the system alter that has revealed secrets. I think if you have done your research and know therapist have heard it all it isn't a problem...Mostly this is the alters that you want to deal with when secrets are revealed, you have to play it by ear/body to see what you all can handle knowing your livelihood and the children /relationship with significant other is more important. I would say the therapist is the least of your worries...If just kinda new at that, start with how you felt about revealing it with your therapist and how you thought she might take it to console you in the shame or embarrassment...Ignore it and if she wants to discuss it then either avoid or say I don't remember for safety...Safety is always first though not showing off competition, I got caught in that while in a group not really on a conscious level, but what came next was a whole lot of chaos....I thought it was important not to sit like a bump on a log either spending my gas money....If I had know I would have shared in different order.....I feel bad for that but trying to share the stories with each alter is lot of well go to the research, educate them on why it can be really a task for everyone to be okay.


Has anyone enjoyed and now miss the partial hospitalization or inpatient being in therapy group and individual session I kind of miss the all day attention since I'm on here a lot, but at the same time I'm really good at managing it and rarely need that 6 plus hours of care?