That is good advice. It is what i want to do. My only dilema is that he really needs me to be in his court right now .. Literally ... He is going to court over custody of his daughter and i made a committment to be there with him and help him.. If he loses custody of his daughter he will be devastated but if he loses us both i dont even want to think about how he would be. He has his family but they arent very supportive. They love him but support is lacking. I do love him, and dont want to see him hurt. I know stringing this along isnt good but ending it this moment doesnt seem like the right thing to do.. Im not really talking to my ex right now because even though im confused i dont want to be a cheater. Im trying to make this decision not based on the ex at all. It is all about me and my fiance. I feel like the things between us are enough complications without adding a third party.