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Originally Posted by elevatedsoul
i dont like touching on it too much because of personal reasons...
but doesnt when integration happen, spontaneous or not.. a sense if knowing is there?
the alter hasnt disappeared but melded or absorbed into..?
so the feeling of missing shouldn't be there so much right..? maybe a missing of how things were, but not of him..?
i dont know...
clearly im just asking questions too and not saying any definitives...
like, i have read many times of alters going dormant... especially when they are not so much needed at the time...? but i dont think that is integration..?
maybe more like them sleeping a while... missing in action so to speak..
until shaken awake or just spontaneously wake up even? i dunno much about dormant either...
im just speculating, and im glad you are here, welcome 
have you done much reading up on it..? there are information out there in the net if we just know how to search the right ways..
but of course talking with a good trained professional can help us learn better so we dont take in too much misinformation from the convoluted? internet |
**: We know if we come together again. Sometimes two of us talks together at once and the other one who isn't talking kind of sits there and listens. We're kind of glad to find out that some folks feel that their alts go quiet for a bit. *Soft giggle* How curious though. Being the core and having the other two expect you to always come through and when I feel that I can't, I've let them down. *Kicks dirt with foot* Is there any worse feeling? Sorry for getting off track. I'm pretty sure I miss either of them specifically when they go quiet though to the point of tearing up. You're probably right about the quiet not equalizing to that of integration. I'll have to keep an open mind about it next time we have a moment in public.
*: We were at a Library the day before yesterday and I'm typically the one to take a more professional approach towards things to get them done. I'm a little shy though so thats why I asked "**" to step in with a bit of his cheeriness to speak to someone but uh, he actually decided to stay quiet for a bit when the time came and for a while after. We found ourselves outside and I asked him what happened? Our own core didn't give us a response for the first time? Me and "***" weren't as sad as we were shocked we suppose. "**" regained consciousness and started going into tears about the short absence. Thus his words, "When I feel that I can't, I've let them down." We weren't upset though, we were just glad that he was feeling ok after the whole thing was over. That being said, we also kind of came to realize that we can't force one another to come out and speak, and we sort of respect that for each other. ᐢ｡´•ᴥ•`｡ᐢ
**: Thank you for the warm welcome. We're usually sweet to each other so we're not really used to other folks being sweet TO us haha. ᐢ｡ᵔᴥᵔ｡ᐢ So thank you for that.
We really should get to reading a bit more into it. We're just... scared of giving ourselves doubt. ᐢ｡´･ｪ･`｡ᐢ
***: It terrifies me.