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Originally Posted by rainyday107
Tisha, this post is old but perhaps you will see it. I completely disagree your sex life is over at 50. No way, dear! Do not despair. It just sounds like this is your fate should you stay in the relationship. I know you have a lot going on.
May I ask why you married him as there was never any sexual chemistry there?
It's not all you or MI-related. It sounds like a one-sided relationship where your needs were never considered.
I may be off base and I apologize if I am or if it's too personal. Take care. xo
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Thanks for talking about this with me. I noticed you said you are submissive. I think you will really understand. I think both he and I are subs, and that doesn't work. By his being so submissive, he forces me to be the Dom. I am the forced dominatrix.
Now, I could have embraced that role. Heck, I could yield a cat-o-nine-tails along with the best of 'em. But, it just sickened me. I just couldn't bring myself to do it. So to cope with my having to be the initiator (and I don't mean Dom in the sense that he wanted bondage, just leading), I had to get drunk or drugged and fantasize, which makes me dissociate. A total PTSD, anxiety attack producing event just to have sex.