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Old Aug 25, 2016, 03:18 AM
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Originally Posted by xRavenx View Post
Thanks for the link. I just had a break up with an emotionally unavailable person, and I can understand what the woman in the video was talking about when it comes to unmet needs. I can see it's not really my ex that I'm needing, but it's other needs that aren't getting met that I'm unable to fulfill. I realize I've been building up this person to be someone he is not and ignoring what I bring to the table in a relationship. It's almost like an addiction of wanting something I cannot have. She does talk a lot about parents and not getting needs met in childhood. However, I did have parents that gave me the things I want in life. The only issue I can think of offhand is that my mother often had issues dealing with her anger in the best way with me when I made mistakes growing up. So I'm still confused as to how I developed some of these patterns.
Raven, your comment about (unrealistically) building the person up is so true, IME. We tend to only see part of the person. Good insight. Take care. xoxo
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