So for the last while all my husband I seem to do is fight. Our fights always seem to last a while and we go around and around in circles. I always feel like he doesn't understand me or what I'm trying to say and I feel like have to keep repeating myself. It's driving me crazy, and when we fight I always end up feeling like a bad person and like I'm certifiably insane. My inability to see things as anything but in terms of black and white drives my husband nuts. He knows this about me and then gets mad when I can't see things in the grey zone like he does.

For example to day we just had a huge fight about something so stupid. He's supposed to build a desk for my son and he needs to go to the hardware store to figure out what he needs to do it. I asked him when he thought he'd go and he said he didn't know. I hate not having time frames for things, I have to have time frames for things or it drives me crazy. He knows this. So I asked him again and said the only reason I was pushing is because if I don't push him to do things they will take forever or never get done. (I have a box of stuff sitting in my living room that I've been asking him to take to the attic for six months) and then this huge fight erupted because I 'had to have a time frame.'

I can't tell if I'm being unreasonable. I can never tell anymore.after fights he's always super pissy and I'm left feeling crazy and like I'm a bad person.

I know we need help communicating and I've talked to my psychologist about this but I just don't know how to handle things anymore.