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Originally Posted by Lostinwonderland541
That is good advice. It is what i want to do. My only dilema is that he really needs me to be in his court right now .. Literally ... He is going to court over custody of his daughter and i made a committment to be there with him and help him.. If he loses custody of his daughter he will be devastated but if he loses us both i dont even want to think about how he would be. He has his family but they arent very supportive. They love him but support is lacking. I do love him, and dont want to see him hurt. I know stringing this along isnt good but ending it this moment doesnt seem like the right thing to do.. Im not really talking to my ex right now because even though im confused i dont want to be a cheater. Im trying to make this decision not based on the ex at all. It is all about me and my fiance. I feel like the things between us are enough complications without adding a third party.
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But you can be in denial about what this is about or you can face the fact that even in your first post you said
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More recently my ex wife has been asking me to come back.. I miss her so much and still love her so so much. We broke up because she cheated.. (Part of a manic bipolar episode).. Now i do think i want her back and feel like we are unresolved.
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Right there, that part of your post speaks volumes to the fact that she is a major part if not the biggest reason you're considering a break up. when you said you still love her so so much, that should say to you that you are not committed in this relationship with your fiancé. When you describe him I see no real love or commitment other than you care about how he feels, which is compassion but in contrast to how you describe your ex it's undeniable. Even if you don't end up with either I don't think you should be feigning commitment to him at all right now and pretending that all is well.