I'm sorry you didn't get any responses....I've had that happen too and it always makes me feel like a freak. I was a virgin until I was 21 and I had some guys break up with me because I wasn't ready to have sex yet. When I did have sex, I went wild with it and it eventually became a way for me to get affection. It caused a lot of problems for me intimately later on.

When I got with the guy I'm with now, I told him we had to wait. I needed to be with him for a little while to know the relationship wasn't based on sex. He was totally willing to wait as long as I needed, and that was very important to me. It proved to me that he loved me for more than just sex. I'm glad I took that time.

Anyone who doesn't stay interested in your because you're not ready to sleep with them, isn't worth it anyway. Thats probably hard to say to yourself in the moemnt, but its true.....if they can't respect your boundries now, then how could the relationship work?

Its too bad that the one who was willing to wait went a different direction. I have no doubt that someone is out there who's right for you though, who will be willing to wait as long as you need, and who fulfills you in other areas. I didn't find "the one" until 6 months ago, and I'm 28....so sometimes it just comes later in life for some of us. I wish I hadn't had to go through all the sexual insecurity before I met him, but the past is the past.

It sounds like you're sticking to your guns, and thats really admirable, especially in this day and age.


Rayna