I'm sorry she instilled stricter boundaries. And with punishment! I don't think the "punishment" is fair. She could have clarified the boundaries first, and then if you crossed them, re-address them/tigthen them. If that didn't work then maybe I could see laying down consequences.

I know that's been a slight fear of mine. My T told me if my attachment gets too bad, she'll have to change the boundaries. So I now set my own on myself.

I do understand the attachment. But it also sounds like you know this isn't the right T for you anymore. It's a hard place to be in. Is there anything you can do on your own to try to lessen the attachment? Because that's what's holding you back?