This must be majorly painful. I get the need to stay, I stayed with a therapist for 7 years who villified my needs. I was then terminated. My current T understands that the goal in therapy is for the patient to accept their own needs and to treat themselves with kindness and compassion. The difference is night and day. What your T doesn't get, is along with the so called "neediness" (I hate calling it that because it's negative), is a major amount of fear that one will not get an answer. Your t, knowing that you were waiting for a reply, cruelly told you that she was thinking about your therapy. I am also angry for you. I unfortunately totally understand you staying with her, no judgment here. I do wish that you could find another therapist who would treat you the way you deserve to be treated.