Thanks Brazen.

I guess it frustrates me more, because I have always been one to make time for anyone who has needed me, for anything at all, but have never once received it in return. I don't expect people to make time for me all the time, but once in a while really doesn't feel like that much to ask for?

Example: a group of about 5 of us used to have "wine night" (I would DD because I am usually on meds that I cannot consume alcohol while taking, and I live the farthest away from the friend whose house we go to, so it makes sense for me to pick up/drop off anyone who plans to drink on my way there/back) on a monthly basis. Then shortly after I lost my living arrangement and had to move (not far, and still where it is no problem to DD still because everyone is still on my way), wine night suddenly stopped. I tried to get the group to make plans for something, whether it was wine night at N's house, or going out to grab a bite to eat, even if it was just one or two of the group and not the whole crew, and I stopped getting responses. I recently found out (during a conversation with one of the wine night regulars) that they have been having wine night and not inviting me, but nobody wanted to say anything TO me about it.

Another example: good friend moved her horse to a different barn. Better environment for her young horse, and her coach runs her lesson string out of the barn so is more readily available for help in horse's training. I am unable to go to this barn due to the manager disliking me due to my affiliation with someone she has history with, so I cannot go to visit her at her barn. According to her, my inability to go to her barn means that I am "unwilling to put any effort into our friendship" and that I am "just mad at her for moving". No, I am not mad at her for moving, in fact I am THRILLED that she finally moved her horse to a more appropriate facility for what he needs (my barn just isn't set up for a young off-the-track thoroughbred), and tell her so often. But now because I do not go to her barn on a regular basis (because the manager has told me multiple times that I am not allowed on the property due to my affiliation with the other person), she has started treating me very differently. This is a friend who I frequently would pick up on my way to the barn in bad weather so that she didn't have to ride her scooter in the wind/rain (because she would refuse to do so for safety reasons, but then moan and groan about not going out to see her horse. Plus, doing so allowed me to spend time with her anyways), who I switched my work week around so that I could help her move when she bought her condo, and whose horse I cold hosed/rebandaged after he had an accident and her work schedule wouldn't allow her to get out to the barn in the daylight to do it herself. But now I am a "bad friend" because I literally cannot go visit her at her new barn?