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Old Aug 25, 2016, 08:19 PM
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Originally Posted by ThisWayOut View Post
She asked what I meant. She asked if I thought my wife loved me genuinely... I couldn't define why I didn't question my wife's love, but I couldn't describe the difference. Today, on the way home from group, it hit me: when I'm feeling vulnerable, I'm looking for love. And I start to crave being really badly hurt...

T then simply said "hmm" (this was all through text)

I'm guessing we will talk about it at the next session...
I'm sure she will want to talk about that. You do think your wife genuinely loves you, right? I'm hoping that it's not because she violates you or abuses you. I don't know your history but it seems if you grow up in a home where people you love treat you bad we seem to accept that as the norm in life. What else would we know? I think as we get older we determine that there is a difference, but it's so ingrained in us that it's hard to move out of that way of thinking. This is just an uneducated guess, but I have seen it with kids I used to work with.
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