I am so sorry to hear that you spent your birthday in this way, especially such an important one as well. It is never a nice thing to have your special day spoiled in this way.
It honestly seems to me as if your mother has not yet come to full terms with your condition. Parents will often think it is their fault that we are the way we are, and therefore use defensive mechanisms to validate their feelings and try and understand your actions. It is unfair to speak to you in such a way on your birthday. Perhaps you should sit her down and remind her that the person that your illness affects most is YOU, and right now you're in the process of helping YOURSELF, and in turn you will soon be able to help those around you by being healthy. I am glad that you have support from your boyfriend, and I sense you trust him the most and have a strong supportive relationship with him. Hold onto that, and use it to help yourself through your healing process. If healing means removing negative energy from your life, then perhaps you should think about lessening contact with those who cause you sadness and pain until you think you're ready.

Best wishes X

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