you give him the power...
to %#@&#! you over like how he has %#@&#! over most women he has been involved with thus far...

how come?

you think you can change him?

you think that (very gently here) there is something appealling about changing him?

like that if he changes for you then you must be really very sexy and amazing indeed?????

guys like that don't change until they figure that they want to change. until they figure that since they are fourty or fifty and don't have any emotional connections and so on and so forth they better darned change or they are going to die lonely. that isn't a change that it prompted by their feelings for a particular person (even though that is the romantic storyline that many of us long to believe) they change because ultimatly something inside themself drives that change.

my motto is that you don't become involved with a person like that until they have made the change already.

how come? because people like that %#@&#! you over. they hurt you. i keep my emotional distance from people who are known to cheat and emotionally mess around because i realise that if someone is going to do that in order to emotionally connect with me... they will be messing me around in order to emotionally connect with others down the track.

have you heard of this idea that the pleasure is in the chase? while you seem ambivalent i'm sure you are appealling to him. once you give him your heart then you won't seem so appealling to him anymore (because he can rely on you as a solid base while he goes on his merry way).

music might be supposed to make you 'melt' but did you tell him this? (ie did you say this so that music has become understood as something that inspires you to fall in love dispite yourself? have you given him the key to your heart that easily?)

you are worth more. you are worth more than that.

DJ... not worth much when he is fourty kicking around with no emotional connections and when he starts losing his looks and when being a DJ starts to look juvanile...

you deserve better than that...