I got married late in life and I had my daughter at the ripe age of 44. My wife is an European immigrant and by marrying she could stay in the US. Now we both have different recollection of our courtship and decision making process when we finally got married. I do remember telling her that we may not be compatible but I did not tell her to go home. I left the decision to her. She now remembers none of that and says "I felt sorry for you, because you were so alone." She insinuates that I was begging her to stay. This was 18 years ago. I was diagnosed only a few years ago. We have not had sex for 15 years! I know she has the right to resent certain things(no sex, I am not a home maker/repair guy and I am not rich) - she makes more money!
...but I am not responsible for anybody's happiness. If she is not happy she could have found another sex partner. I never wanted kids (subconsciously, I'd guess I knew the danger of my daughter inheriting my emotional baggage. Recently she also mentions that my daughter's personality all the bad things are from me. This whole affair is very hurtful and makes me sad. Am I making a mountain of a molehill? I suspect that when Dora turns 21 or gets married my wife could divorce me (she is 10 years younger) - I am afraid to be alone. I have no relatives, or even friends...