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Originally Posted by cbova71
I've tried changing my password and passcode locking my phone, but then he asks me what I'm trying to hide, etc., when I do that. I don't look on his phone, and I do know his password. As far as telling him my feelings, I always get the "deer in headlights" look when I'm trying to talk to him, or he will go off and wash dishes or fold laundry so he doesn't have to make any sort of eye contact with me when I'm trying to tell him stuff. He ended up being off work today, so I can definitely see my therapist this evening (I am glad for that).
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The flip side to that guilt trip argument is "if you trusted me and felt secure about our relationship, you wouldn't feel compelled to go through my phone and emails."
Sounds frustrating to have no communication.
With my ex it seemed more a distrastibility issue. These days, it's hearing loss.
Try asking him if he's listening and where he went to in that moment? It puts the responsibility on him to recognize that point where you are feeling unheard.
Hope your therapy works out.
"Investigate your hidden assumptions."-Cornel West