The flip side to that guilt trip argument is "if you trusted me and felt secure about our relationship, you wouldn't feel compelled to go through my phone and emails."

Sounds frustrating to have no communication.

With my ex it seemed more a distrastibility issue. These days, it's hearing loss.

Try asking him if he's listening and where he went to in that moment? It puts the responsibility on him to recognize that point where you are feeling unheard.

Hope your therapy works out.

"Investigate your hidden assumptions."-Cornel West