Dear Angelique and PastelKitten,

It's OK for it to still hurt ! The point is ... just be present while it hurts, don't get mixed up in the hurt !

What you want to do is step out of the hurt. Distance yourself from your emotions, and watch them as they're going on. When you step out, you don't feed the pain, you don't get lost in it. They call it "mindfulness" or "presence" or "stillness", depending on who is teaching.

So, instead of saying, "Oh, it hurts like hell. I don't see how I can ever get out of this. I hate xyz person.", you give yourself some perspective by stepping out. So, it becomes, "It hurts like hell right now. But, I know that xyz person said this because xyz doesn't know any better."

I promise you ... those two ways of dealing with pain feel very different. Just try it out the next time you are in pain.

"Forgive them for they know not what they do"