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Originally Posted by ImmerAllein
Dear Angelique and PastelKitten,
It's OK for it to still hurt ! The point is ... just be present while it hurts, don't get mixed up in the hurt !
What you want to do is step out of the hurt. Distance yourself from your emotions, and watch them as they're going on. When you step out, you don't feed the pain, you don't get lost in it. They call it "mindfulness" or "presence" or "stillness", depending on who is teaching.
So, instead of saying, "Oh, it hurts like hell. I don't see how I can ever get out of this. I hate xyz person.", you give yourself some perspective by stepping out. So, it becomes, "It hurts like hell right now. But, I know that xyz person said this because xyz doesn't know any better."
I promise you ... those two ways of dealing with pain feel very different. Just try it out the next time you are in pain.
"Forgive them for they know not what they do"
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I see what you're saying. My therapist told me that during the times I get panic attacks I should look at it as though I'm viewing myself panicking from the window of a train. I acknowledge that I'm panicking but like a train, pass on by. It's so much easier said than done but I'm doing my best
Now I'm thinking of a song called "Trains and winter rains" by Enya. "Every night is the same. One more night, one more train." It really spoke to me because night time brings about a lot of anxiety in me (ironically because of all the anxiety I had to endure for the past year in particular, when it became more severe...so in a way I was traumatized by my own anxiety).
I'll keep this in mind more often and practice it.