I found this video immensely helpful because it encourages you in the direction of trying to make the connection between your unmet needs, that may have originated in childhood, and the ways one might be trying to for fill them through relationships with unavailable people.

I feel for you. I was stuck in that zone for quite a long time.

Big hugs and welcome to the forum! Keep coming back!

check out the YouTube channel called
Self Love U, check out the book "getting past your break up" by Susan Elliott

-Lele