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Originally Posted by Myrto
Tanks for all the replies! I hear what you are all saying which is: I should fire her. The thing is, even if I am hurt and angry at her behaviour, the idea of moving on is just impossible. If I switch therapists that means I have lost two and a half years of my life. All the stuff I talked about, the vulnerability I displayed it will all have been for nothing. Plus I won't have closure :she won't admit to being wrong she won't apologize. I will be left with nothing.
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I think you should do what ends up being best for you, period. If you decide to leave this T, I wouldn't think of it as time lost. Relationships are often fluid and once they cease to serve a purpose it can be time to move on. It is scary, especially if ending a relationship has a negative connotation for you. It doesn't h ave to be that way, however, and it can become something empowering. I can't imagine how staying with, and paying, someone like this is at all beneficial. As someone in the field, I find her "boundaries" bizarre and condescending. Email is one of the least intrusive means of communication I can think of, next to writing a letter. If you called or texted throughout the day I could see feeling annoyed perhaps, but that's something to talk about. Cancelling a session for an email? That doesn't even make sense -
you pay her. If she's getting paid who is she to withhold sessions from you, her client? That is grounds for being fired, in my opinion.