She is hard to talk to about those things, and I am generally a person who tries to understand as much as possible. That's pretty much the main reason I posted this, to try and make sense of things and why and how all this could develop.
I usually have a hard time just accepting stuff that isn't explained, I think the change is neccesarry, especially in this case as I know that she is just flinging a lot of stuff under a doormat which can't be good.
It may not come from me, but I might be able to learn how to deal with it and help her guide her in a right direction, and I don't think that direction is just ignoring her problems and letting her deteriorate over time, I know it's just gonna get worse for her, and for that matter for me as well.