Hi All;
I came to this forum hoping to gain insight on how to deal with my bipolar neighbor. This is not a new issue just an unresolved. For 25 years i have dealt with a woman who lives next door. She is related to most of the people in this clannish community and is married to my husband's cousin. over the years she has relentlessly accused me of everything, from stealing a watering can, which she later was observed smashing with a sledge hammer and stuffing into a trash bag in her front yard; to releasing her husbands hunting dogs and trying to shoo them away and when he asked what happened she told him I had sneaked over and turned them out of their pens. Then there was the time she ran off the road and wrecked her car and told her husband I ran her off the road, but she was the bigger person and would not press charges. Then there was the time she shot at me with a rifle, I saw her and dropped to the ground at the same time she pulled the trigger. She thought she had hit me and I watched her run to her car and peel out of the driveway, only to return with her parents a few minutes later. Her mother was telling her that all she needed to say was that I had shot first and it was self defense. If i lived no one would believe me since I had no family. She told her daughter that they would take care of it. I sat up and stared at them when they approached. By the way, I don't even own a gun. There was the time she invited me to home interior decorator party and later told her husband that I had stold their money, I saw her carrying bags of clothes into her house the day before. One day I was out in my front yard checking out my flower bed and her daughter walked over talked with me few minutes about my flowers and went home. The next day this woman brings a prominent realtor to the boundary line between her property and mine and tells the woman that she has to keep an eye on her daughter because her neighbor has "an unnatural attraction" for her daughter and "lures" her into the yard. Since that week my husband has done almost no business ($1,000) in 2 years. Then one day, last year, the woman's husband comes over and tells me that if I ever "go after" his wife and children again he'll jump all over me. I have absolutely no idea what he was talking about.
The scariest of all is now this woman, who has always had short hair, has had hair extensions put in and wears her hair and dyes it the same color as mine. If I wear a balck shirt and go out to work in my front garden, she comes out wearing a black shirt. If I wear a striped shirt, she will come out of her house wearing a striped shirt, the same colors. I went to an rv dealership and looked at an rv. It was too expensive. Three days later, this woman drives into her driveway blasting a horn. She has just purchased the EXACT RV I looked at and parks it right on the property line by my front porch and the next thing I hear is her talking very loudly into a cell phone about how she must keep the blinds down because I leer and stare into the rv. Now this woman has a 5 acre lot, that rv can be parked anywhere but I can't pick up my house and move it. Also, I bought a pot of mums, she went out and bought 12 pots of mums the exact same color. This kind of stuff goes on and on. She tells her relatives that I copy her. This woman is ABSOLUTELY driving me NUTS!!!!