I have a hard time asking for help. I will help others readily...but asking for help is hard to do.

I had to handle/take care of myself as a child and for most of my adult life. My exhusband is a diagnosed Narcissist and did not offer help. Also, I had to be constantly alert for incoming abuse from my mom and later my (ex)husband.

I would never ask them for help, I was surviving and they wouldn't want to help me, anyway. I think I've spent a lot of years in fear and trying to stay under the radar. I didn't realize I had needs until I went into therapy. That's strange to type, but it's true.

I now have one person in my life, my boyfriend, I can ask for help, which is wonderful.

I'm able to accept compliments now....I used to have an issue but got past that.

I love gifts. I'm grateful for gifts but don't expect them. No one ever gave me thoughtful gifts until I met my boyfriend; this was after my divorce from my N exhusband.

I'm rambling. Sorry if I strayed too much. I'll get the hang of it soon.