Absolutely agree. I have realized this over the past two years. I realized that a lot of my relationships have been abusive. They took advantage of me and I put up with their abuse because I didn't want to be alone... Narcissists are quick to see the cracks in someones character. Given that we Borderline sufferers have a tough time hiding emotions, we wear our heart on our sleeves and Narcissists see this as a wide open door to an easy target. A narcissist is brilliant at crossing boundaries and discovering a targets vulnerabilities. This way they can get under our skin to get what they want.

I have gone no contact with some family and lots of friends. They were toxic relationships and in order to heal we need a safe environment with people who can understand and appreciate us and not harm us further.

Avoid narcissists. Since I educated myself I have been able to heal.

Thanks,
HD