We live in two different states.
She whines. For instance, I sent her one of those thinking of you cards. When it finally arrived, she called to let me know. She then wanted to talk to me about something I had said. She wanted me to tell her that I Indeed said something to her. I adamantly refused because it had something to do with him, we talked about it, and both agreed that it won't be talked about again. So with that in mind, with her I kept my mouth shut.
She then began her tactics on me with some being "how could you hurt me like that, I'm not mad with you, this is my son, only God knows, we are women and should talk, etc, etc, etc." I held on one reason being what he said about it not being discussed anymore, which strengthened me because I wanted to support him.
Finally she said, actually kept weaving this in and out, "we'll I guess I'll have to come to my own conclusions" to that I said "you'll have to think whatever you want to think."
Finally she said, abruptly because I think his daughter and grandkids began arriving, "I'll call you" and hung up.
I really believe that I, although certainly not the first, but she realized that I wasn't going to give in to her manipulation. I heard frustration in her voice and I didn't care.
This is evidently one of her tactics to make him do her bidding, especially the why you wanna hurt me words. , Although having weaknesses of my own, I absolutely loathe, abhor control over people.
Yes, she's a very unhappy person. But that's too bad because I am definitely not one you can even try to control, sometimes even getting outright angry when I see what you're up to.