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Old Aug 28, 2016, 07:54 AM
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Originally Posted by jimmy rich View Post
In my studies, that belief could be changed to "I must be as polite and civil as possible, even if I DO NOT get along with them". IMO, getting along is a different matter than just being polite and civil. If I find I cannot get along with some family member (which is happening right now), I just won't communicate with them at all! But if an accidental meeting should happen (like in the mall or at a store), I'd still be POLITE.
The hardest part for me is that I'd rather not communicate with them, but for the sake of peace in our marriage, I will probably need to see them at holidays.

And honestly, I can admit that they probably have good reasons to be angry with me, and I finding that difficult to deal with, as well.
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