Well there is physical attraction and there is the mental - one can overcome the physical if the person "clicks" mentally(if she had inclination to be a dom, do you see? We are just not there. When you are you know it instantly. I felt sorry for her and liked her a lot. Now, after 18 years she has changed in personality and looks too I am sad to say. I still love her, but I am 60...I cannot be her sex partner.