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Old Aug 28, 2016, 11:15 AM
Anonymous48690
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Originally Posted by bronzeowl View Post
If people know someone who is trans/non-binary/gender non-conforming... couldn't they ask for "advice" or understanding elsewhere? The sexuality & gender board, or the relationships board? Either of those could be a go to. Men have women in their lives, and may sometimes want advice in regards to their wives, sisters, mothers, etc... but I wouldn't expect them to go to the women board to ask for it. No. I'd expect them to go to the relationship one. Why are we any different just because we're trans?

Maybe I'm cynical, or maybe I'm just sick to death of having to explain myself, but I feel like treating this board differently than we do the men and women boards only encourages people to keep thinking we are different, and that we should be treated as such. I have to explain myself constantly offline. Just recently I was told by my brother and his girlfriend that one of my fiance's old friends (she's an old one now, now that he knows what she said) was talking about me behind my back. Wondering how a trans person could be pregnant, how I could be with a man, etc etc. This same person had expected me to "explain myself" back in November of 2015. I refused, so it's no wonder she would talk about me like that. Things like that, though, are why I'd rather not be expected to explain myself even here.

Are cis people allowed to be curious? Sure. Should they expect us to answer every single question they have? Um. No. That's what Google is for. There are only so many times we can explain pronouns, sex vs gender, sexuality vs gender, etc before it just becomes emotionally and mentally exhausting.
I'm with you on that one: Having to explain yourself all the time. Id rather hand them a card with a link on it.

I've gone through the DID thing trying to explain Psych 202 to an ignorant crowd that don't get it anyways.

Its okay to ask questions, but its even better to educate ones self instead of the instant gratifcation of ask and answer- it can be tolerated only so many times. The internet has become more informative, but it has made people lazy.

I respect the women's forum because even though I'm fem, the body is male and we don't have womanly issues. Besides, the guys are not into it.