Wow dsh74! You are going through a LOT right now. I'm not surprised that your IBS and PMS are flaring up. You're trying to grieve for your mom, plus probably trying to recover some energy from being a caretaker.

May I make a suggestion? Pamper yourself. RIGHT NOW. Your body is trying to tell you it needs your attention. What do you do to relax? What nourishes you?

This may sound funny, but I recommend that you immediately go get a massage, manicure, facial and pedicure. You need to get back some of what you gave out.

Accept all the GRACE that is given to you.