I think watching one's own parents staying together without loving each other is one of the most painful things a child can witness. And I find it quite horrible that you state you never really loved her. It is devastating for every person to not feel loved, man or woman.

You're supposed to provide an example of a relationship, and by staying together with a woman you deem 'crazy' (find it very out of place to use that word, but you do not seem to really care, as well as talking about 'insame asylums'. I understand you want to present things the way a stand-up comedian would do and give the forum entertainment, but you're on PC; oh the irony in it all!) you do not show them the right thing at all.

Noone can deny that you're very strong to endure everything for your kids but it still isn't healthy. It will end up taking a toll on your health in the long run even though you pretend everything is fine, which I don't think it is or else you wouldn't be posting here!

I really hope you find a solution quickly and that not everything evolves into mutual bad-mouthing each parent in front of the kids as that seems to turn out very badly. You are their father and your wife is still their mother.

I'm glad you stay strong and I hope your wife will fix her issues. It is awful to have a manipulative partner but it is also awful to be suffering so much that you see being manipulative as a way to get what you want. The fact she still asks for a hug breaks my heart, as she seems to be very immature in everyday life and someone who can't handle responsibility.

Hope everything improves