I have bpd and am nearing 3 years with a "stable" person. Im not saying it's been easy. Before being with her I would have answered no to your question. But with a lot of work and some great ups and horrible horrible downs I can say it's possible. I'm at the point of learning to accept the Inbetween as good and not "the spark has gone" (which most of the time isn't hard to find". That quiet little place where you can sit opposite ends of the couch, whilst still understanding eachother and enjoying each others company. It takes work on your part and work on your partners side. You will not always understand eachother. Your partner will at times wonder why on earth they are doing this, you will at times wonder if they even care about you at all because they aren't as needy as you. My biggest help has been seeing her attention as more than just emotional. She might not always say how much she loves me, but she keeps food on the table and makes plans for us to do nice things together at the weekend and asks me how my day was. She holds my hand when we are out and about and it's me she falls asleep next to. She shows me respect. And in turn I try to cope with my disorders. It's about meeting in the middle even though us bpds can be known for hating grey areas x

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