Hi Ladytmt, I see you are a fairly new member, welcome to PC, hope you are finding PC a helpful supportive site.

You are certainly "not" a failure if you have not found the right partner and are married with children. There are plenty of women who get married and have children that are absolutely miserable, trapped in a relationship they hate and are unhappy with. Also, be thankful that you were smart enough to get out of the toxic relationship you did have and did not marry and have children with him and be in an even worse situation.

There are thousands of unmarried women and single women who are parents out there, doesn't mean these women are failures either. It's actually a lot harder to find the right partner and have a happy marriage that actually lasts. Think about all the top stars that seem to have it all, looks, money, careers and yet they end up broken hearted. Don't find the right one, or end up in divorce that is very public, ugh, no privacy at all. There really is a sizable list of these women. Princess Diana, look how miserable she was, Jay Lo, and Jennifer Aniston, and Sandra Bullock to name only just a few.

Keep your chin up, don't feed into the "I am a failure mindset", in this challenge, it's just not easy to find that "prince charming" no matter "who" the woman is.