It's been 17 months since my termination. I didn't have maternal transference, just extreme attachment. I still miss her. I'm still jealous that other people, especially other clients, get to be in her life. I have a box of saved things from her. I can't look at it. It hurts too much.

I will say it gets better over time. My current T has really helped me out a lot. I no longer cry over ex-T. And though I still think about her almost daily, they're more fleeting thoughts. It took almost a year for me to get past the worst.

As far as maternal transference, I have experienced it in the past. And with one woman, she basically met all my needs. I got hugs, holding hands, she rocked me in her arms once, kissed me good night on my forehead, tucked me into bed, etc. I can honestly say that it didn't fill that hole inside me. It still wasn't enough. It helped. I was only 18 and had been abandoned by everyone in my life. But what helped the most was realizing that no matter how much love I got, it would never be enough. And it wasn't just with that woman. I had multiple "mother-figures" in my life. None were enough. So I've learned that the issue won't be resolved by anyone but myself. It's my issue.