I´ve been in therapy for half a year now and we talk about relationships and partners (among other things). I´m 30+ and I have never dated and naturally I haven´t been in a relationship. I don´t suspect any medical reasons for that.

When I feel lonely as I often do I never picture me with a man (or a women as in a partner) and I neither picture a man to be the comfort or support I need. My mother is alive but we don´t have that close contact although we speak on the phone almost every day.

By that I´m kind of "stuck" in some childish needs and longing for a mother, I want the warmth of a mother, the caring, the presence. I don´t mean I want a mother to clean, to cook for me and such but it´s something deeply emotional I lack.

My mother was there for me when I was a child, she was a stay at home mom for many years. She says she gave me hugs but I don´t remember it that much. I was never abused or anything like that.

But still, I have this deep longing for a mother figure. Has anyone else experienced this? Did you talk about in in therapy, any theories that surfaced around this complex issue?