Hi Carrie,

From what you've said, I would choose the lesser of the two evils ... which is to stay put where you are in MN and try to work on the boredom and loneliness. That, to me, is a better option than being jobless and homeless, which would put you under much more stress than you are in now.

Right now, things are bad for you, and I suspect that you're just looking for the greener grass on the other side (Phoenix), which may not really be greener, but in fact, much worse.

I understand the stress of having no job and no money because I've been jobless for a year and a half now. It is unrelenting and believe me, the only thing worse than being jobless is being homeless. You don't want to take such a huge risk, esp. given your disability (you mentioned SSDI).

You can make healthy changes of some kind. If you're lonely, how about meeting local people through meetup.com ? Or even online dating, if that's an option ?

Sincerely wish you the best,
Kartik