Are you doing something positive for yourself? Like, it makes me feel more competent that i make a nice oatmeal breakfast for myself every morning. This is something i started doing only in the past year or so on a really regular basis. I admit its pretty pathetic that i waited until i had one foot in the grave so to speak, and that probably other people take better care of themselves. But t and i were talking today about how no one ever noticed or took care of my needs, and this sounds like that to me. Are we competent to take care of our needs. Will our needs be met. Or are they still too big.