I dont now if this is any help Blue, but I came out to my dad a vietnam vet who thought that every adversity in life should just be "toughed out" like a marine. I guess because of his undiagnosed PTSD or maybe just because I was his little man still. He got it. he still made terribly inappropriate comments about nutjobs after the fact, but he always caught himself and apologized to me. I knew that while he accepted me, he probably did not like it. But in the end he still loved me, I did it more for me then for him and I am glad that I did, he died about 2 years later. I do have a sense of peace about our relationship, but I was not living with him at the time, I may not have done it had we been living under the same roof.