My last post looks a bit confusing. I'm not saying that we should blame others for our problems, but I am saying that if a person has disrespected us, then we are entitled to tell them that. This is the basic principle of assertiveness.

Brando told Steiger, clearly and without anger, that Steiger had disrespected him. This piece of film acting overwhelmed me, as I saw my own predicament.

I had failed to be assertive with my own father, and I regard this as a personal failure on my part. I blame myself for not facing up to my own fear, and telling him before he died that he had hurt me so badly.

I hope that makes sense. I'm still struggling with this, and the emotion makes it hard to think as clearly as I would like.

Cheers, Myzen