being in a controlled area (foster home labeled as a "group home") and so we are limited to what coping skills we can use(also a lot of the staff dont seem to know much or be understanding of autism and how it is for us.

they tell me that she wont ever be my friend because we wont have sleep overs and "pow wows" - but i dont care about those things. shes my best friend for who she is. not what she can or cant do. i accept her for who she is. she struggles a lot inside. and she doesnt "speak" but she does communicate, the staff here just dont listen to the way she does.

i can be myself around her, and she can be herself around me. nothing will change that. she will always be my best friend no matter what.

when i get my assistive communication technology im gonna let her borrow it to see if thats something she wants or would like to have when she wants to communicate something to people like the staff here that cant understand her current way of communicating with them.
i think she should always have one, but not be forced to use it. she should have the choice/option of using it whenever she wants it though.

does anyone here know any way to remedy the intensive feelings that are stuck inside? or to make it less severe?
i think i understand when she makes humming sounds it to help with the hearing and coping with the other sounds from others talking, and radio, and tv, and bus making all different kinds of sounds, and helps her.
but if thats it, the staff misread it as something else.

can anyone suggest some stuff? i wish so hard that she could be who she wants to be, and i dont know what she would like completely, but she should at least have the option and choice there for her if she wants it.
theres a lot of things i understand because i also have autism. and without my stimulant med im stuck inside myself too. with burning inside from the intense and extreme feelings that build up. but also i know that med doesnt help for everyone, and when i was on others they did some things different- like ritialin made me make lots of eye contact and listen but not able to speak back very often. then when i was a toddler i would cry as soon as the stimulant meds kicked in and wouldnt stop until it left my system - because then it was making my intake of sounds, seeing, feeling physicals, emotional feelings, smells, and stuff, it made them all get heightened, causing a long meltdown.

im a resident here just like her so i cant do staff like stuff or doctor stuff. but i so badly still want to do what i can do to help her. and also learn what she wants and doesnt want. shes an amazing lady, and very smart. its just being hidden by how the autism is affecting her. but she is still in there and if its something she wants, i hope she can one day "come out of her shell" and be able to show all the others who she is.

any ideas?