Wow, there's quite a few of us that have had this experience. I'm sorry this has happened but it is of some comfort to know that I'm not alone and that we all share this pain.

All of my Ts encouraged me to talk about how I feel in the present and my past memories, completely overlooking the therapy relationship itself which I now think offered so much information about my early years of which naturally, I have no memory. The relationship with your T, the attachment and the transference is such an integral part of therapy that I can't begin to understand why it goes ignored by therapists. Sure, it's awkward and difficult but therapists are just as guilty as shying away from it as their clients. In my case, my Ts were actually worse than me at evading the topic. I tried to discuss it and get across my level of attachment to two of my Ts in the build up to termination when I first became aware of it as being problematic but on both occasions, I was told it was normal or it was swept under the rug. No, it isn't normal to feel so attached to somebody that it's toxic, provoking obsessive thoughts and behaviors, but I could gauge from T's reaction to what I had said already that had I told them this, I would be terminated on the spot. Having become so painfully attached and then badly hurt by the termination on two occasions, with my third Ts I decided to tell them before it (the attachment) happened that I had a tendency to become over attached and this had been present my whole life with authority figures. I wasn't terminated, but again it went ignored at which point, in my heart I had given up on them as I knew that they were not capable of dealing with attachment and transference.

Given what I have experienced and now know, I think it should be compulsory that therapists are trained and competent to address these matters. Without doing so, the therapy is IMO only doing further harm and re-traumatizing the client, repeating past relationships where attachment was painful and needs were unmet without offering any solution.