The way you have described it, yes. My own mother never fit the bill. I realise now I was perhaps seeking those things missing in my relationship with her. My past relationships failed badly - for a number of reasons but I think a very big reason was that they lacked the motherly qualities I had been looking for.

i've had therapy on this however and now firmly am of the belief that I did not deserve the treatment of my own mother (I wasn't bad persay). Gone is my need for a 'mother' in my life and I found a relationship I haven't had that requirement for.

I'm interested not only in other people's experiences needing a motherly relationship; but, in those that find themselves being 'the mother'. I now find a tendancy for this to happen.