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Originally Posted by Biba_yu
, he never leaves them even for a day, which means we never spent the night together, never travelled together and probably never will. He just won't leave them.
. It plagues my mind. Am I evil? Or selfish? I don't want to live with him so why this bothers me so much?
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I don't feel that you are evil nor selfish for being bothered by this, at all.
I clipped out the part that to me, speaks greatly of the giant elephant in the room. Through actions, it's important to realize that you are a priority, that you aren't in second place. And it's important that he makes plans to do all these things with you, separate from care giving to his aging parents. These things are important needs that you have and the right thing for him to do is honor you in these ways. He might need to coordinate his parents care, but it's important that he does. It's a growing resentment, which is natural of those that love and support caregivers.
"Investigate your hidden assumptions."-Cornel West