Oh I see. It was really hard to advice on here as I don't know history of the parish lady (if she possibly was abusing you). I didn't know you were abused in your church. I'd stop attending it and talk to a minister.

As about exes. It would be uncalled for parish people asking if your ex is diagnosed and treated as you have no control over ex's health and treatment, only your own. It would be strange of them to ask such questions about your ex

Hopefully you can get help and support you need. Good luck

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